There is a fair bit of research out there that shows that kids who come from homes with different types of parenting styles behave in different ways. Parents who provide emotional warmth and closeness, show interest in their child’s well being, consistently provide clear rules and enforce them, and grant children age appropriate independence tend to have children with higher self-esteem. Kids from these types of home also tend to be more engaged and successful in school, more independent and more self-reliant. And here’s one more thing…..they tend to choose to be a part of peer groups that are more socially acceptable, like athletic teams, drama club, band, etc.
This type of parenting style is Authoritative, the one that provides rules and consequences with high levels of love and support. I find this information really interesting. It tells me that if I choose to parent in this way, I have a better chance of my children being successful, happy with themselves, and making responsible choices. That’s what I want!
So, here’s my question to you parents out there. We all know we should provide clear rules and consistent consequences along with love and encouragement. But, in day-to-day life, sometimes we don’t succeed in doing that. What is your biggest challenge in parenting in this way? What gets in your way?