Parent, Teacher, Activist
When we go out to eat as a family, we want to enjoy both the food and the atmosphere. Some of us may like places that our fun and flashy, while others like quiet places that make conversation easier. However, what most of us probably don’t plan to see when we take our families out to eat are scantily clad food servers.
Here’s a warning for those of you who live in the Dallas/Ft. Worth area whom might not want to be surprised. There is a barbecue restaurant in Grapevine called Big Racks BBQ that, along with a stomach full of “award winning barbecue,” also provides an eye full of the bodies of the young female servers.
Now, you might think this is a sports bar and grill geared primarily toward men, such as Hooters. But what I saw on the Big Racks website that surprised me was the announcement that they have a special where “kids eat free” on the weekends. What? Are there people who actually take their kids to eat at this place? I mean, these girls are wearing tiny tops (if you can call them that) and short denim shorts. If you don’t believe me, take a look at the website, these are not “cute but modest” outfits. They are blatantly sexualizing the wait staff.
After seeing this, I started wondering not only about who would come up with this idea, but also about the women who choose to work here. It seems clear to me that women who choose to work in this type of establishment have bought into the post-feminist view that says that a woman’s greatest power comes from her individual sexuality. If one believes this, then why not objectify yourself and use your body as a means to money? I think this post-feminist view is junk. If a woman views her power as coming from her sexuality, then her power is by definition two things: shallow and fleeting. Power that is shallow is out of one’s control to a certain degree and isn’t built upon by things like integrity. This type of power is fleeting. Looks will fade or have to be supported by plastic surgery.
Ladies, we do not want to build our power on a foundation that is weak. We want our power to be about whom we are in our deepest core, based on our integrity, curiosity, enthusiasm, and energy. Don’t embrace the lie that your power comes from your physical appearance. Look instead to your deeper self. Be a voice of transformation in the world around you, and don’t believe lies that say your physical appearance is what makes you important.
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