Don't Conform, Transform
I recently read this article on The Current Conscience The Key To Success: Be A Man | The Current Conscience. In this article, the author talks about how the gender bias makes success easier for men than for women. Sure, many of us want to believe that there is now an equal playing field. People like Rush Limbaugh call anyone who speaks up for equal treatment regardless of gender “feminazis.” The word feminist is often maligned and even openly rejected by young women who have bought into this idea that sexism is dead and feminism’s work is done.
And yet, there are facts that speak to the contrary. The National Committee on Pay Equity reports that in 2010, women earned 77 cents to men’s dollar. According to the Interparliamentary Union’s July 2011 report, in the United States, women only make up 16.7% of government representatives. That’s 70th on the list out of 136. According to the National Poverty Center, “poverty rates are highest for families headed by single women, particularly if they are black or Hispanic. In 2010, 31.6 percent of households headed by single women were poor, while 15.8 percent of households headed by single men and 6.2 percent of married-couple households lived in poverty.”
According to information gathered through the U.S. Census, the wage gap between women and men cuts across a wide spectrum of occupations. The Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that in 2007 female financial advisors earned 53.7% of the median weekly wages of male financial advisors, and women in sales occupations earned just 64.8% of men’s wages in equivalent positions.
Feminism is simply a movement that espouses equality of pay and treatment regardless of gender. Let me make this clear, if the only difference between two employees is their biological sex, and the female employee is being paid less than the male employee, that is sexism. If a person is treated with less respect simply because of their biological sex, that is sexism.
So why do some find it difficult to believe that sexism still exists, contrary to the facts presented above? In Susan J. Douglas’ book Enlightened Sexism, she presents an idea that compliments Gerbner’s Cultivation Theory that we discussed in a previous post about how media shapes our perceptions of reality. You see, in media representations, women have achieved equality! Contrary to the numbers in reality, media often shows women in top positions in government, law enforcement, and business. In fact, our perception of how much equality women have achieved has been shaped by what we see in the media. If TV says that a woman can be president, then it must be so! Right? Wrong.
In fact, even in everyday life, many females, both adults and children, find that their voice is not heard simply because of their gender. For example, I was recently in a meeting with a group of people, 3 women and 7 men. We were all talking together trying to solve a problem. At one point, one of the women in the group confidently and loudly made a suggestion. Nobody responded. A few minutes later, one of the men made the very same suggestion, and it was roundly accepted. The woman said, “Didn’t I just say that?” You see, these men weren’t trying to be unfair. They weren’t knowingly ignoring their female colleague. In fact, they literally did not hear her voice. This type of thing happens everyday to women. It’s called gender bias, and males and females both have the tendency to disregard the female voice.
This is especially true in settings in which women have not traditionally been in positions of leadership or power such as the military, STEM fields, or the church. My colleagues Cherisse Flanagan and Stephen Johnson conducted interviews with young girls (aged 9 and 10) who regularly attended churches that limit the role of women in their leadership. Time and again, these girls expressed that they did not believe their voices would, should, or could be heard in their places of worship.
In a very interesting take on this issue, Yashar Ali says,
“Gender bias is not compartmentalized in our culture; the benefits of discriminating against women don’t just exist for the men who actively discriminate them. So, if we men don’t acknowledge that we all get an extra boost because of our sex—we are essentially saying that gender bias doesn’t exist.
And for those of us who are willing to acknowledge that gender discrimination even exists, we tend to see it as something suffered by women—that it is just an aggressive act against them. We think that we only have to combat the aggressor in order to solve the problem.
So, no matter how good we are, no matter how much we respect women, the same biases the women in our lives struggle with and fight against, are the same biases fueling our success.
How can we fix this gender imbalance if we don’t first look around our own lives and see and acknowledge the reality: yes, I move faster in my career because I’m a man, I didn’t have to sacrifice nearly as much because I’m a man, it’s easier for me than for my woman counterparts (if you have any) and colleagues. Who did I pass on the way here? How can I stop this from happening in my own life? Have I done everything I can to speak out against gender bias in my workplace and life, especially with men?”
This is an important reminder that both men and women, boys and girls need to be talking about equality or lack thereof. It is not enough for women and girls to be aware of inequalities, everyone needs to recognize the truths here and speak up about it. Michele from The Princess Free Zone recently wrote a blog post about teaching boys how to understand this issue. Here are a few of the suggestions that she makes:
As a young boy:
As a young man: